BLACKED OUT SILVER LININGS

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I wore:
Jumpsuit – Stradivarius
Denim jacket – Topshop sample sale
Trainers – Fila
Bag – Nasty Gal
Earring – H&M
Sunglasses – ASOS

Today we’re discussing insecurities, comparison and what it means to be beautiful. Yup, deep stuff. So once upon a time I didn’t believe I was a peng ting. Everyone and their dad wanted to compare my sister and I, from friends to family members who always favoured her over me – she’s absolutely stunning btw, check her out on IG @antoinetteale_ + her hair platform @haircrushuk… I’d get comments from “friends” like “oh is that your sister, raah what happened to you” or “are you definitely blood sisters/related, are you sure?”. I was also always the friend who guys approached so they could get to my friend lol and on top of this tragic life story, I had quite bad acne, which again everyone used to point out to me as if I didn’t own a mirror. I used to pray hard for God to give me clear skin. Like listen, when I tellllll you these were full on tear-filled prayers; I was crying out to God like it was the end of the world, wow what a time. When I look back it seems silly but I honestly felt like utter crap and my self esteem was non-existent. I wouldn’t even dare go to the corner shop without makeup. It hurts to reflect and realise all this but it’s also amazing to acknowledge how far I’ve come. I think in a weird, subconscious way that’s how I came to develop an experimental, fun, unique dress sense and cool personality (not to toot my own horn or nothing haa) because I was probably trying to shift the focus away from my face. Funny how life works ay?!

I think it’s crazy how many people have deep insecurities and you’d never guess from looking at them or seeing them on social media. I had a conversation with a friend last week and she was sharing how she felt insecure about her body and all I could think was huh, YOU? I just never imagined that someone who came across so confident and self-aware would have insecurities but I think we all do, it’s mad.

I’m on a lifelong journey of learning to truly love myself inside and out and a lot of different things have helped over the years so I thought I’d share. Obviously being a Christian I try and run to God and His Word for everything life throws at me so that’s been really encouraging. Motivational speakers have also helped, to some extent, and also affirmations on daily/weekly/whenever-you-feel-like-a-dead-ting basis. Also, being really aware of my thoughts and nipping negative thoughts in the bud straight away— it can feel draining at first but it’ll become second nature with consistent practice. Please always remember, beauty fades and there’s much more to life than looks. A famous blogger once described her body as spirit sack and that really stuck with me because that’s exactly what it is and it’s what’s within that truly matters. Say it with me “I am a peng ting inside and out”.

Btw this was a little insight into my mind and the self-therapy sessions that go in my head so yeah welcome.

Stay blessed, c ya.

TQL x

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TARTAN TWO PIECE + THRIFT TIPS

If you know me, you know I love a two piece/co-ord set. I’ve come to realise that I’m very much obsessed with them; they just make so much sense. You don’t necessarily need to “complete” the look with anything cos it’s already complete, right?! Also, there’s nothing I love more than a print two piece especially if it can be both dressed up with heels or down with trainers. I found this skirt suit in a charity shop in Shepherds Bush (when I used to live in West London) and it had been sitting in my wardrobe for ages as I had planned to customise it but never got round to it until now yayy. I always forget to take before and after pics but it used to be a longline blazer and a maxi skirt which I then cropped to create this look. Super easy and I didn’t even sew the hemline as I liked the frayed look. So you don’t need to be an expert, you just need some good ‘ol fabric scissors and a steady hand 😉 This is definitely one that I’ll style casually as well with some chunky trainers and a cute tee.

When I go shopping in charity shops I’m usually looking beyond what I can see and thinking more about the potential of a garment rather than it’s current form cos more time it doesn’t look extraordinary to begin with (or I just get excited and think of how I can jazz it up even more). This is a great tip for thrifting and if you enjoy a bit of DIY then even better. I’ve actually been thinking about putting a little “thrift bible” together cos I always get asked about charity shop shopping/thrifting and how i navigate the thrift world lol so I’m going to try my best to make it happen and release that this year. I guess sometimes you just do things not realising that you’ve actually harnessed a skill so yeah this year, we move. Errbody can be a thrifty queen/king, let’s geddit.

Side note: I feel like one segzy lecturer in this look, like I’m about to hold some kind of cool seminar. Anyway, it was fun putting this fit together and if you spot a cool two piece in a charity shop, grab it cos they are rare (or buy it for your favourite fashion blogger, aka me, as a gift)!

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I wore:
Turtleneck jumper – Dorothy Perkins
Two-piece suit – Charity shop
Thigh high boots – Public Desire
Necklace – Pretty Little Thing
Bag – Primark

What is your top tip for thrifting/shopping in vintage markets/charity shops etc? Comment below and let me know!

Have a blessed and productive week, see you in my next one.

TQL x

TIGER STRIPES

Photography: Ola Black (@olablck_)

What I Wore:
Dress – Zara
Coat – Dorothy Perkins
Bag – Primark
Boots – ASOS

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, etc seasons greetings and them ting there and yes I know we’re in Feb now, it’s been a while… Do people still read blogs? Anyway, I took an unplanned hiatus but I’m back guys, sorry to keep you so deprived of fabulous content.

To be very honest with you I haven’t really gone “thrifting”/charity shop shopping properly in a while so my look is literally all from the actual high street, eww. I moved to a new area and there’s literally no local high street that I can just pop to every now and then for a cheeky thrift (which was what I used to do) but you know I’m a bargain hunter so this outfit was still cheap as chips. It’s a simple fit with the star of the show being the zebra print dress which was from Zara for like £7 *shakus on the beat* and my coat was a freebie from when I used to work at Arcadia (that hell hole) so it’s great to have/make friends in retail head offices ;). The boots are my favourite shoes right now, they’ve been keeping my toes warm in the cold and were only about £30 from ASOS, I’ve linked them below if you want to cop!

C ya xx

TQL

PINK PARADISE

So today, I’m bringing you some pretty pink sawce with a splash of gentrification, featuring the very popular and pretty Palm Vaults café. I was kinda perplexed when I turned up and found this cute little café situated in the middle of the gritty East London high street. It’s right next to boss man’s homeware shop and other local necessities which I found a bit strange but I guess it’s a typical example of the gentrification that’s going on across parts of London. Anyway, I took my cute pics outside and kept it moving, safe for the aesthetics x

This look is a fave of mine; it’s a tad bit tomboy but still a bit girly which I’ve come to realise is my “look”; tomboy but make it cute. I found the pink, pleated skirt in my local (now not so local) charity shop for a few quid and got the top and denim jacket from sample sales at work! The skirt is quite a loud number but I love the shiny, foil texture and shade of pink; you’ll definitely turn some heads in something like this. Also, how cool is this denim jacket?! I low key high key wish I customised it myself but unfortunately not. I got it for a fiver and whenever I wear it I get tonnes of compliments!

The bag is another sample sale item (I was addicted to those sales lol) which compliments the skirt so well and is small but very handy and spacious. Teeny bags are in right now and I’m trying to build a little collection cos who doesn’t love miniature things! Mine’s from Toyshop but I know Zara have some really cute ones at the moment…

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I Wore:
T-shirt – Sample Sale
Skirt – Thrifted (H&M)
Jacket – Topshop Sample Sale
Trainers – Fila

So these past few months have been crazy, like a whole lot has occurred. I’ve moved into a new flat with my sis, lost a dear uncle, quit my job without having another one lined up (long story lol) and God’s just been revealing A LOT to me recently. I’ve also had some really low moments about my career/Revival/where I’m heading in life but God is good and I’ve found loads of encouragement and comfort in His Word. Truly “letting go and letting God” is scary but also very liberating and I’ve defo been exercising my faith muscles over the past couple of months. If you’re scared about pursuing something, publishing work, taking a risk, whatever it maybe, please JUST DO IT (word to Nike & Colin Kaepernick). Life is honestly too short. Push yourself and gtfo of that comfort zone! Anyway, I’m really looking forward to starting my new job next week as well as doing my own thing with Revival and just wanted to spread some encouragement to you guys.

P.S. I was going to wear this to LFW but I literally couldn’t be bothered this year lol if you went, how was it for you?

TQL

THE GREEN MINI

In this look, I’m sporting a stolen t-shirt (from a friend lol) and a green mini skirt which has been collecting dust at the back of my wardrobe for some time now. I thought it would be a cute combo and I think the graphic print compliments it quite well plus, who doesn’t love a colour clash! As you can see I am loving the mini skirt and crep combo at the moment. It’s my go-to right now with the addition a t-shirt to complete the look.

Photography: Alex Mitchell (@alexmitchellphotography)

What I Wore:
T-shirt – Stolen from a friend
Skirt – Thrifted
Denim Jacket – Topshop
Trainers – FILA
Necklace – Topshop

Hope you guys have been enjoying the semi-decent weather (Londoners), we’re actually having a summer wow! Also, how are we nearly at the end of July? I need answers guys, seriously. This month has literally flown by and I feel like so much has happened. One major change has been me moving to a completely different part of London with my sister and it’s the first place we can actually call home *tears of joy*. It feels amazing to officially have our own flat but also very overwhelming and surreal. With God all things are truly possible and I’m just so grateful right now. There have also been some downs this month but I know everything happens for a reason and God is in full control. Life is ofcourse full of twists and turns and it’s all about embracing each experience and moment as well as living each day to the fullest because tomorrow isn’t promised. On a lighter note, congratulations to all those graduating from university over this period. Well done on completing no matter what grade you left with and welcome to the real world haa!

What’s been the highlight (or lowlight?) of this month so far? Comment below 🙂

Thanks so much for reading and catch you on the next one.

TQL

NICCE FOR WHAT?

Photography: Antoinette Ale

What I wore:
Jumper – NICCE
Skirt – Topshop
Bag – New Look
Trainers – FILA

Sorry guys I know you’ve seen this caption a billion times but I HAD to, the word play with the brand name was too perfect and no it’s not a typo lol. So NICCE reached out to me (my first ever brand collab *screams with excitement*) and sent me this cosyyyy jumper from their latest collection, so I decided to put a cute, casual look together. If you don’t already know, NICCE is a casual-wear/streetwear brand that sells simple, clean cut designs for both women and men. I discovered this brand sometime last year and I’ve been meaning to buy some so this was a perfect opportunity! As I love combining sporty and tomboy pieces with a bit of a “girly” vibe, I paired the oversized jumper with a patent skirt, which I bought years ago from a Topshop outlet, and a shiny mini side bag. And ofcourse, I’m wearing my super comfy FILA trainers which I can’t get enough of. Here’s a link to the NICCE black hoodie womens page if you want to check out their stuff. Their products are such great quality and very affordable for what you’re getting so I definitely recommend having a pree.

*sidenote* Ladies, do you feel this Drake song on a spiritual level because I can’t be the only one? I’ve had enough of living in a “man’s world” and all the patriarchy bull$h*t we have to deal with on a daily basis but I’m also excited about the shift in the dynamics between men and women in society right now. Women are amazing human beings and I feel we are beginning to gain more of a voice across all sectors and in society in general. Girl power all the way. there are loads of reviews and music blogs which break down the lyrics to Drake’s song which I found interesting. Also, I low-key high-key feel like it also relates to curving guys who are overly persistent. Take the L and keep it moving sha; no more mrs nice girl, hypothetically speaking ofcourse xoxo

Anyway, as the London weather continues to fluctuate between B’baydus and thunderstorms, I’ll be staying cosy in women’s hoodies and light jumpers. Someone wake me up when the sun comes out, 10Q.

TQL

RUSH HOUR

Photography: Keelie Mweni (@kreated.jpg)

What I wore:
2 piece suit – Miss Selfridge
Trainers – FILA
Fanny pack – Thrifted
Glasses – eBay
Earrings – H&M

This look was inspired by my fellow commuters, the 9-5ers and grinders rising early to get that coin and crawling home tired af after hours. I’ve really been feeling this suit and crep look and I feel like it came straight from TfL because this is a real life, practical look for most office heads – trekking to work in crep and then changing into shiny shoes at the office. I wonder if they know they’ve been setting trends…

Lately I’ve been feeling super overwhelmed and like I’ve been doing way too much and honestly I have. I’m the type of person that loves to always have something going on whether it’s my blog, a business venture, a new hobby, etc and I find it really difficult to just be idle and do nothing with my day. But more recently I’ve been struggling to fit in any “me” time or even time to see family and friends and that’s when I had to check myself. I’ve come to realise that sometimes you just need to CHILL. It’s not okay to always be busy because that’s not sustainable. We all need to take a break once in a while so we can recharge and get back to what we were working on with even more vim. I know this can’t just be me so sis/bro, take a bludclart break. Don’t be so hard on yourself!

Sidenote: These FILA Disruptors are ridiculously comfy, who’s also feeling the “dad trainers” trend right now?! Thanks for reading guys, stay blessed and have an amazing new month!

#MAYGANG #TAURUSSEASON

TQL