BLACKED OUT SILVER LININGS

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I wore:
Jumpsuit – Stradivarius
Denim jacket – Topshop sample sale
Trainers – Fila
Bag – Nasty Gal
Earring – H&M
Sunglasses – ASOS

Today we’re discussing insecurities, comparison and what it means to be beautiful. Yup, deep stuff. So once upon a time I didn’t believe I was a peng ting. Everyone and their dad wanted to compare my sister and I, from friends to family members who always favoured her over me – she’s absolutely stunning btw, check her out on IG @antoinetteale_ + her hair platform @haircrushuk… I’d get comments from “friends” like “oh is that your sister, raah what happened to you” or “are you definitely blood sisters/related, are you sure?”. I was also always the friend who guys approached so they could get to my friend lol and on top of this tragic life story, I had quite bad acne, which again everyone used to point out to me as if I didn’t own a mirror. I used to pray hard for God to give me clear skin. Like listen, when I tellllll you these were full on tear-filled prayers; I was crying out to God like it was the end of the world, wow what a time. When I look back it seems silly but I honestly felt like utter crap and my self esteem was non-existent. I wouldn’t even dare go to the corner shop without makeup. It hurts to reflect and realise all this but it’s also amazing to acknowledge how far I’ve come. I think in a weird, subconscious way that’s how I came to develop an experimental, fun, unique dress sense and cool personality (not to toot my own horn or nothing haa) because I was probably trying to shift the focus away from my face. Funny how life works ay?!

I think it’s crazy how many people have deep insecurities and you’d never guess from looking at them or seeing them on social media. I had a conversation with a friend last week and she was sharing how she felt insecure about her body and all I could think was huh, YOU? I just never imagined that someone who came across so confident and self-aware would have insecurities but I think we all do, it’s mad.

I’m on a lifelong journey of learning to truly love myself inside and out and a lot of different things have helped over the years so I thought I’d share. Obviously being a Christian I try and run to God and His Word for everything life throws at me so that’s been really encouraging. Motivational speakers have also helped, to some extent, and also affirmations on daily/weekly/whenever-you-feel-like-a-dead-ting basis. Also, being really aware of my thoughts and nipping negative thoughts in the bud straight away— it can feel draining at first but it’ll become second nature with consistent practice. Please always remember, beauty fades and there’s much more to life than looks. A famous blogger once described her body as spirit sack and that really stuck with me because that’s exactly what it is and it’s what’s within that truly matters. Say it with me “I am a peng ting inside and out”.

Btw this was a little insight into my mind and the self-therapy sessions that go in my head so yeah welcome.

Stay blessed, c ya.

TQL x

RUSH HOUR

Photography: Keelie Mweni (@kreated.jpg)

What I wore:
2 piece suit – Miss Selfridge
Trainers – FILA
Fanny pack – Thrifted
Glasses – eBay
Earrings – H&M

This look was inspired by my fellow commuters, the 9-5ers and grinders rising early to get that coin and crawling home tired af after hours. I’ve really been feeling this suit and crep look and I feel like it came straight from TfL because this is a real life, practical look for most office heads – trekking to work in crep and then changing into shiny shoes at the office. I wonder if they know they’ve been setting trends…

Lately I’ve been feeling super overwhelmed and like I’ve been doing way too much and honestly I have. I’m the type of person that loves to always have something going on whether it’s my blog, a business venture, a new hobby, etc and I find it really difficult to just be idle and do nothing with my day. But more recently I’ve been struggling to fit in any “me” time or even time to see family and friends and that’s when I had to check myself. I’ve come to realise that sometimes you just need to CHILL. It’s not okay to always be busy because that’s not sustainable. We all need to take a break once in a while so we can recharge and get back to what we were working on with even more vim. I know this can’t just be me so sis/bro, take a bludclart break. Don’t be so hard on yourself!

Sidenote: These FILA Disruptors are ridiculously comfy, who’s also feeling the “dad trainers” trend right now?! Thanks for reading guys, stay blessed and have an amazing new month!

#MAYGANG #TAURUSSEASON

TQL

1 PIECE 2 WAYS: DENIM EDITION [2/2]

This is Part 2 of the first post in my ‘1 Piece 2 Ways’ series featuring an oversized thrifted t-shirt which I styled in two completely different ways; if you haven’t already seen Part 1 of this denim edition, click here hunny…

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps_)

What I Wore:
LOOK NO 2
T-shirt – Thrifted
Jeans – Topshop sample sale
Puffa jacket – Revival London
Trainers – Nike
Backpack – Topshop sample sale

In this lewk I’m sporting a handmade Revival bomber jacket made by yours truly from old pairs of jeans which you can see more of on the Revival insta revivalldn. This look is super chilled and laid back compared to the first one as I wanted to give you guys something different. I’m representing for all my tomboy girls out there who love a baggy look. Very casual, very cosy. I got the jeans from a sample sale at work for a few quid and the t-shirt was also a few quid so this outfit was cheap as chips lol who wants to come shopping with me?! I’ll help you save your coin so you can free up your coin for more important areas of your life 😉

Hope you enjoyed this post my lovelies, more to come in this series next season!

TQL

1 PIECE 2 WAYS: DENIM EDITION [1/2]

Welcome to the first in my seasonal series of ‘1 Piece, 2 Ways’ in which I’ll be showcasing two different ways of styling one garment or accessory. I thought I’d try something new with my blog so I hope you guys will like this new series!

 If you didn't already know, I am incredibly obsessed with denim (which is partly how my brand, Revival, became a denim brand) so the first in this series had to feature some good 'ol denim. This series is centred the oversized t-shirt which I got from a charity shop.

If you didn’t already know, I am incredibly obsessed with denim (which is partly how my brand, Revival, became a denim brand) so the first in this series had to feature some good ‘ol denim…

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps_)

What I Wore:
LOOK NO 1
T-shirt – Thrifted
Denim Jacket – Thrifted
Shorts – Topshop (Joni jeans cut into shorts)
Boots – Public Desire
Bag – Primark
Glasses – Primark
Earrings – ASOS

This is Look number 1 (of 2) in the Denim Edition which features this oversized t-shirt as the main piece. I copped the t-shirt from the men’s section in my local charity shop. I really love the fit; it’s giving me oldschool vibes like in the early 2000’s when everyone wore XXXXL clothing. I swear I was born in the wrong era *sigh*. I went for a chilled yet spicy look for this one and decided to style my suede thigh high’s with a casual denim jacket to serve you some cute date night vibes.

Thanks for reading guys and look out for Part 2!

TQL

CAT EYES + CONFIDENCE

Yep, we’re still wearing coats despite the fact that it’s April now, British weather eh. I’m very tired of this deceptive sunshine and bipolar weather. Anyway, your girl is back with a new post and this one’s for the bada$$ bih’s. I thought I’d put together a lil edgy look with my fairly new leopard print coat and cat eye sunglasses because why not?! I felt especially badass with these sunglasses on; I swear they make you feel like a completely different person. Confidence levels on 1000 x

I’m not the most confident person but I’m a firm believer in stepping out of your comfort zone and also faking it till you make it. By the latter, I don’t mean stunting and acting like you’ve got it all together but rather forcing yourself to be confident in the moment and then making that your norm. For example, when I’m at a networking event I’ll force myself to walk over to at least one person and start a conversation without overthinking it! Literally, just do it (no Nike). As you continue to do that frequently, it will come so naturally to you, which is what Dr Ivan Joseph talks about in his Ted Talk; he describes confidence as a skill that can be trained and I think this is so true. I also think, however, that we are all born with a certain level of confidence, some greater than others and in different aspects, but we’re still capable of increasing our level on confidence in the areas we lack in.

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps_)

What I wore:
Top – Topshop sample sale
Jeans – Topshop sample sale
Coat – Dorothy Perkins
Boots – New Look
Bag – Primark
Sunglasses – eBay

What item/person/place/scent gives you a boost of confidence? Comment below! 🙂

FYI my coat is 100% faux fur coat pls before anyone comes with their slander lol I definitely don’t condone the killing of animals for the manufacture of (luxury) goods.

Thanks for reading!

TQL