BLACKED OUT SILVER LININGS

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I wore:
Jumpsuit – Stradivarius
Denim jacket – Topshop sample sale
Trainers – Fila
Bag – Nasty Gal
Earring – H&M
Sunglasses – ASOS

Today we’re discussing insecurities, comparison and what it means to be beautiful. Yup, deep stuff. So once upon a time I didn’t believe I was a peng ting. Everyone and their dad wanted to compare my sister and I, from friends to family members who always favoured her over me – she’s absolutely stunning btw, check her out on IG @antoinetteale_ + her hair platform @haircrushuk… I’d get comments from “friends” like “oh is that your sister, raah what happened to you” or “are you definitely blood sisters/related, are you sure?”. I was also always the friend who guys approached so they could get to my friend lol and on top of this tragic life story, I had quite bad acne, which again everyone used to point out to me as if I didn’t own a mirror. I used to pray hard for God to give me clear skin. Like listen, when I tellllll you these were full on tear-filled prayers; I was crying out to God like it was the end of the world, wow what a time. When I look back it seems silly but I honestly felt like utter crap and my self esteem was non-existent. I wouldn’t even dare go to the corner shop without makeup. It hurts to reflect and realise all this but it’s also amazing to acknowledge how far I’ve come. I think in a weird, subconscious way that’s how I came to develop an experimental, fun, unique dress sense and cool personality (not to toot my own horn or nothing haa) because I was probably trying to shift the focus away from my face. Funny how life works ay?!

I think it’s crazy how many people have deep insecurities and you’d never guess from looking at them or seeing them on social media. I had a conversation with a friend last week and she was sharing how she felt insecure about her body and all I could think was huh, YOU? I just never imagined that someone who came across so confident and self-aware would have insecurities but I think we all do, it’s mad.

I’m on a lifelong journey of learning to truly love myself inside and out and a lot of different things have helped over the years so I thought I’d share. Obviously being a Christian I try and run to God and His Word for everything life throws at me so that’s been really encouraging. Motivational speakers have also helped, to some extent, and also affirmations on daily/weekly/whenever-you-feel-like-a-dead-ting basis. Also, being really aware of my thoughts and nipping negative thoughts in the bud straight away— it can feel draining at first but it’ll become second nature with consistent practice. Please always remember, beauty fades and there’s much more to life than looks. A famous blogger once described her body as spirit sack and that really stuck with me because that’s exactly what it is and it’s what’s within that truly matters. Say it with me “I am a peng ting inside and out”.

Btw this was a little insight into my mind and the self-therapy sessions that go in my head so yeah welcome.

Stay blessed, c ya.

TQL x

TARTAN TWO PIECE + THRIFT TIPS

If you know me, you know I love a two piece/co-ord set. I’ve come to realise that I’m very much obsessed with them; they just make so much sense. You don’t necessarily need to “complete” the look with anything cos it’s already complete, right?! Also, there’s nothing I love more than a print two piece especially if it can be both dressed up with heels or down with trainers. I found this skirt suit in a charity shop in Shepherds Bush (when I used to live in West London) and it had been sitting in my wardrobe for ages as I had planned to customise it but never got round to it until now yayy. I always forget to take before and after pics but it used to be a longline blazer and a maxi skirt which I then cropped to create this look. Super easy and I didn’t even sew the hemline as I liked the frayed look. So you don’t need to be an expert, you just need some good ‘ol fabric scissors and a steady hand 😉 This is definitely one that I’ll style casually as well with some chunky trainers and a cute tee.

When I go shopping in charity shops I’m usually looking beyond what I can see and thinking more about the potential of a garment rather than it’s current form cos more time it doesn’t look extraordinary to begin with (or I just get excited and think of how I can jazz it up even more). This is a great tip for thrifting and if you enjoy a bit of DIY then even better. I’ve actually been thinking about putting a little “thrift bible” together cos I always get asked about charity shop shopping/thrifting and how i navigate the thrift world lol so I’m going to try my best to make it happen and release that this year. I guess sometimes you just do things not realising that you’ve actually harnessed a skill so yeah this year, we move. Errbody can be a thrifty queen/king, let’s geddit.

Side note: I feel like one segzy lecturer in this look, like I’m about to hold some kind of cool seminar. Anyway, it was fun putting this fit together and if you spot a cool two piece in a charity shop, grab it cos they are rare (or buy it for your favourite fashion blogger, aka me, as a gift)!

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I wore:
Turtleneck jumper – Dorothy Perkins
Two-piece suit – Charity shop
Thigh high boots – Public Desire
Necklace – Pretty Little Thing
Bag – Primark

What is your top tip for thrifting/shopping in vintage markets/charity shops etc? Comment below and let me know!

Have a blessed and productive week, see you in my next one.

TQL x

TIGER STRIPES

Photography: Ola Black (@olablck_)

What I Wore:
Dress – Zara
Coat – Dorothy Perkins
Bag – Primark
Boots – ASOS

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, etc seasons greetings and them ting there and yes I know we’re in Feb now, it’s been a while… Do people still read blogs? Anyway, I took an unplanned hiatus but I’m back guys, sorry to keep you so deprived of fabulous content.

To be very honest with you I haven’t really gone “thrifting”/charity shop shopping properly in a while so my look is literally all from the actual high street, eww. I moved to a new area and there’s literally no local high street that I can just pop to every now and then for a cheeky thrift (which was what I used to do) but you know I’m a bargain hunter so this outfit was still cheap as chips. It’s a simple fit with the star of the show being the zebra print dress which was from Zara for like £7 *shakus on the beat* and my coat was a freebie from when I used to work at Arcadia (that hell hole) so it’s great to have/make friends in retail head offices ;). The boots are my favourite shoes right now, they’ve been keeping my toes warm in the cold and were only about £30 from ASOS, I’ve linked them below if you want to cop!

C ya xx

TQL

PINK PARADISE

So today, I’m bringing you some pretty pink sawce with a splash of gentrification, featuring the very popular and pretty Palm Vaults café. I was kinda perplexed when I turned up and found this cute little café situated in the middle of the gritty East London high street. It’s right next to boss man’s homeware shop and other local necessities which I found a bit strange but I guess it’s a typical example of the gentrification that’s going on across parts of London. Anyway, I took my cute pics outside and kept it moving, safe for the aesthetics x

This look is a fave of mine; it’s a tad bit tomboy but still a bit girly which I’ve come to realise is my “look”; tomboy but make it cute. I found the pink, pleated skirt in my local (now not so local) charity shop for a few quid and got the top and denim jacket from sample sales at work! The skirt is quite a loud number but I love the shiny, foil texture and shade of pink; you’ll definitely turn some heads in something like this. Also, how cool is this denim jacket?! I low key high key wish I customised it myself but unfortunately not. I got it for a fiver and whenever I wear it I get tonnes of compliments!

The bag is another sample sale item (I was addicted to those sales lol) which compliments the skirt so well and is small but very handy and spacious. Teeny bags are in right now and I’m trying to build a little collection cos who doesn’t love miniature things! Mine’s from Toyshop but I know Zara have some really cute ones at the moment…

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps)

What I Wore:
T-shirt – Sample Sale
Skirt – Thrifted (H&M)
Jacket – Topshop Sample Sale
Trainers – Fila

So these past few months have been crazy, like a whole lot has occurred. I’ve moved into a new flat with my sis, lost a dear uncle, quit my job without having another one lined up (long story lol) and God’s just been revealing A LOT to me recently. I’ve also had some really low moments about my career/Revival/where I’m heading in life but God is good and I’ve found loads of encouragement and comfort in His Word. Truly “letting go and letting God” is scary but also very liberating and I’ve defo been exercising my faith muscles over the past couple of months. If you’re scared about pursuing something, publishing work, taking a risk, whatever it maybe, please JUST DO IT (word to Nike & Colin Kaepernick). Life is honestly too short. Push yourself and gtfo of that comfort zone! Anyway, I’m really looking forward to starting my new job next week as well as doing my own thing with Revival and just wanted to spread some encouragement to you guys.

P.S. I was going to wear this to LFW but I literally couldn’t be bothered this year lol if you went, how was it for you?

TQL

1 PIECE 2 WAYS: DENIM EDITION [2/2]

This is Part 2 of the first post in my ‘1 Piece 2 Ways’ series featuring an oversized thrifted t-shirt which I styled in two completely different ways; if you haven’t already seen Part 1 of this denim edition, click here hunny…

Photography: Belita Marfo (@biggiesnaps_)

What I Wore:
LOOK NO 2
T-shirt – Thrifted
Jeans – Topshop sample sale
Puffa jacket – Revival London
Trainers – Nike
Backpack – Topshop sample sale

In this lewk I’m sporting a handmade Revival bomber jacket made by yours truly from old pairs of jeans which you can see more of on the Revival insta revivalldn. This look is super chilled and laid back compared to the first one as I wanted to give you guys something different. I’m representing for all my tomboy girls out there who love a baggy look. Very casual, very cosy. I got the jeans from a sample sale at work for a few quid and the t-shirt was also a few quid so this outfit was cheap as chips lol who wants to come shopping with me?! I’ll help you save your coin so you can free up your coin for more important areas of your life 😉

Hope you enjoyed this post my lovelies, more to come in this series next season!

TQL

CREAM ROLL NECKS + CHOCOLATE SUEDE

Photography: Stephanie Okereafor

What I wore:
Dress – Thrifted (Zara)
Jacket – Mile End Thrift Store
Trainers – Nike AF1
Bag – Primark
Glasses – eBay

Hey hey, your girl is back! It’s been an extremely long hiatus, my longest one yet, but it was definitely needed and so much has happened since my last post in March (yé). I curated my first revival shoot, graduated (finally!), started my first “real” job and went on a very spontaneous trip to Morocco with my bestfriend. So it’s been a busy few months and I’m still trying to figure this adulting thing out but I’m back *multiple ayyy’s*! Life comes at you fast when you’ve suddenly got several bills to pay lol can I go back to school pls. But yeah, I’m learning to embrace it and get into a general routine whilst also working on my fashion reconstruction brand, revival, and keeping my mental health in check. To anyone in a similar position juggling different things at once, keep pushing boo. It’ll all be worth it in the end.

So I went for a bit of an oldschool vibe with this look, sporting these brown, rectangular glasses, which look exactly like my dad’s ones circa ’04, and some vintage suede which I bought years ago when vintage stuff wasn’t overpriced. I found the Zara roll neck dress in Traid for just £3 which completed the 70’s feel and the whole look literally cost about £12 (excluding shoes). The trick of the trade is to always look at labels when thrifting in charity shops; you’ll always find some high street brands in them and sometimes even some designer (depending on the location). Also, eBay is great for vintage accessories so search on there for some cheap, unique bits. Hope you guys were inspired and can’t wait to share more lewks with you.

TQL

METALLICS & ABSTRACT PRINTS

Photography: Pamilerin Akinlosotu (PamSotu Photography)

What I wore:
Top – American Apparel
Trousers – Thrifted
Jacket –Thrifted
Shoes – Vagabond – Office
Bag – Matalan

I said in my previous blog post that I’d post this look separately so here it is; part 2 of the shoot from my interview with Pam on www.pamsotu.com. I am totally in love with these images so big shout out to Pam again. This look features one of my favourite jackets of life! I got it from a charity shop somewhere in North London yearssss ago and it’s just that funky item I bring out every now and then. It defo “makes” the look so I paired it with simple pieces and some layered gold jewellery for a 90’s feel.

Life right now is flying by so fast. I don’t know if I’m the only one feeling like this but how is it December already? Bruh. 2017 is literally round the corner. So I’ve decided that December time is going to be my “month of reflection” (sounds so cringe but whatevs lol). I’m going to use this time to evaluate the year and look back on the goals I set myself in Jan (hopefully you did too!). I’ve deeped how useful reflection is/can be especially when analysing progression and growth so new month, new me init. I bought a large whiteboard at the beginning of term and it’s the best thing ever. On one half, I write down my daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals for everything from academic work to my blog to savings (and getting out of this stupid student overdraft kmt). The other half of the board is full of Bible scriptures and quotes to keep me motivated. Since I started setting myself goals, I feel like I take life more seriously and I actually have something to aim for. It definitely gives you a better sense of direction as well, so if you’re feeling lost or a bit merr about life, try setting some goals even if they’re really simple to begin with. Don’t underestimate the power of goal setting!

“Without a goal, it’s difficult to score.” – Paul Arden.

Also, a bit of self-assessment ain’t never hurt nobody. Ask yourself questions like ‘what have I achieved in x?’ and ‘what progress have I made in y?’. Ofcourse, don’t end up overdoing it and beat yourself up for not accomplishing something. Figure out what went wrong and try tackling it in another way.

I don’t know what works best for you guys, as everyone’s different, but here are my top tips for getting organised:
Buy a huge annual calendar – Stick it on your wall and write in all the important events, birthdays, deadlines, holidays, etc coming up so you know what your year looks like (roughly).
Plan your weekly schedule – Every Sunday, plan out what you want to achieve each day of the week and how much time you want to spend on each ‘task’ (I do this on my iPhone calendar so it’s really easy to edit and I can check it when I’m on the go).
Write lists – To-do lists, checklists, all types of lists! Write down a list of things you need to get done on a daily, weekly, etc basis and update it frequently (I love lists because I can be so unbelievably forgetful sometimes).
Organise your desk space – Clear any clutter, tidy up and organise your files and get some Feng Shui energy up on that desk, maybe even buy some cute mini cacti for aesthetics.

Have an amazing December guys and girls, stay blessed and thanks for reading.

TQL